Pride & Pinterest
Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Google Plus, Twitter have become a way of life. They can be wonderful tools connecting people and sharing ideas, but we can give away bits of our self-esteem without noticing. I’d like you to reclaim your power and protect your self-esteem from social media with tools to avoid the subtle energy-drains and passive negativity that can creep in without you even noticing.
What’s your favorite social media platform? Are you a pinner? I sure am! I opened the door and fell into the black hole and became a pinaddict. My super power was pinning. I pinned All. The. Things. It was fun, relaxing, a way to unwind at night, or so I thought. But as much as I still love Pinterest, I’ve changed how I use it, and I feel happier.
Besides the time spent, what’s the problem? I’m just looking at clever ideas, decorating inspiration, and other harmless things, so what could possibly be wrong with that?
Absolutely Nothing. Except…
How Social Media Impacts Self-Esteem
It’s like window shopping for a life you don’t have, and if you’re not careful it can lead to harsh comparisons, finding your home, body, clothes, cooking, leisure time – your entire lifestyle – lacking. All the beautifully staged pictures show you what you don’t have, because you have dirty dishes, dust, shoes by the front door, and the miscellany of living your life.
Before you vow to close your Facebook or delete your Pinterest, may I suggest taking a less extreme and more balanced approach. First, closing accounts doesn’t mean media influence would all go away. Any media can have a negative impact if we let it. We have the ultimate control over our mindset about media and anything else. Furthermore, think of what you get from social media. How about connection with friends and family all over the world for starters? Perhaps most importantly, your kids are growing up in a world of heavy social media consumption, and they need you to set the example in this like everything else. How can you set rules and teach them appropriate use of these tools if you hide from them? Trust me, they need to know that you are present and watching just like you are in the rest of their lives.
So how do you stop getting caught up in the comparison trap or even reverse it without going on a total media fast? Use these techniques for Mindful Media Consumption to adjust your perception and protect your self-image from social media today.
Protecting Your Self Esteem From Social Media
- Pinkie Promise – To yourself that you’ll stop judging yourself harshly. Recognize life is a work in progress and not perfection. Think of something wonderful about YOU. C’mon … admit it. You’re fabulous! So what if your house doesn’t look like a blog home tour? Theirs doesn’t really either. It’s great photography and lots of staging.
- Attitude of Gratitude – Being happy now is the best antidote. We’ve all heard how wonderful Gratitude journaling is for redirecting our thoughts from lacking to abundance. Make a Gratitude Board on Pinterest, and refocus the lens through which you view pinning.
- Keepin’ It Real – Keep your inspiration realistic for you, not some master craftsman (unless that really is you). Think minimalism and keep only the useful. We all love the circle of swings, but short of winning the lottery and hiring a contractor, does that stand any change of sprouting in your yard? More power to you if you have that motivation.
- Just Delete It – I deleted the board “If I Had Millions” because I don’t. Gone. Not Missed. I also have “Better With Age” which reminds me that beauty and style have nothing to do with age, and this adds a dose of healthy perspective. Do you have categories not adding value? Delete: it’s a thing.
- Plan of Attack – Seek positive topics to uplift, encourage, and build you up. My “Better With Age” board helps my perspective, because let me tell you I am N.O.T. excited about wrinkles. Now take that positivity and share on Instagram and Facebook, because we all need to be uplifted in between kitten videos and news clips.
- Get ‘er Done – I’m getting a little crazy here, but actually do something you’ve pinned or bookmarked. Or do anything creative. Pick up an unfinished project, cook something new – Just do something, because all pinning but no doing is demotivating. I have a board called “Pinned It Did It” as a reminder. Why do you think Pinterest added “tried it” – because all pinning and not doing creates a huge, undone to-do list.
- Give Yourself Props – Don’t compare your whole batch to the one cookie you saw close-ups of. That blogger probably made at least 100 to get “the one”. Are you a food stylist? a food blogger? a pastry chef? Probably not. Think about how much fun it was, how good they tasted, how surprised your family was, or what you learned about baking. It’s about Progress Not Perfection!
- Don’t Participate in the Perfect Life Lie – Don’t be a caricature of yourself. Keep it real without oversharing. Stop carefully curating your photos to the point they need to be Instagram perfect, and Stop the competitive posting.
What do you think about the impact of social media on your self-image? What can you do today to use social media in a more mindful and positive way?